Boundaries

Are you good at boundaries? I am not. I’ve spent a lot of time making sure that everyone else is happy or taken care of, when I in fact am neither of those things at the expense of it. I would turn myself in to the textbook definition of disgruntled before I drew a boundary and told myself that it was fine to do so.

I am now at a point where those days are over.

Not that long ago I heard someone say “if it isn’t a hard yes, it’s a hell no”. It was like I’d been hit by damn lightning. What am I doing so much and why am I going around mad that I bent over backwards to accommodate things when they weren’t an emergency and it wasn’t something that was a “hard yes”.

Done. No more. No longer doing that.

And when I tell you as someone who is constant want-to-be reformed person who always said yes… it. is. hard. But I have to for my own sanity, pleasure, time, eye bags and gray hair.

The next time that your to-do list is piling up, the invites keep coming, the calendar is BOOKED maybe it’s time to look at your boundaries. It’s alright to tell people “hell no” (or say that to yourself and soften that when you tell someone else). It’s alright to protect your peace a little bit. Your spirit and self will thank you for the break.

Be gentle with yourself.